When our lives become woven with numerous altercations, it becomes essential to seek harmonious resolutions, allowing us to journey forward together. Divisiveness and rivalry seldom pave the way for meaningful progress. In this episode, we delve into the art of relinquishing control while striving for a balance that prevents chaos from taking root.
We explore the often-misunderstood essence of Taoism, which may be perceived as passive, while it truly embodies a unique worldview that embraces both gentleness and strength. To navigate life with greater equilibrium means tempering forcefulness while simultaneously establishing healthy boundaries and standing firm for what is just.
WATCH THE EPISODE BELOW!
EPISODE TRANSCRIPT
Whoever relies on the Dao in governing men
doesn’t try to force issues
or defeat enemies by force of arms.
For every force there is a counterforce.
Violence, even well-intentioned,
always rebounds upon oneself.
The Master does his job and then stops.
He understands that the universe is forever out of control,
and that trying to dominate events
goes against the current of the Dao.
Because he believes in himself,
he doesn’t try to convince others.
Because he is content with himself,
he doesn’t need others’ approval.
Because he accepts himself,
the whole world accepts him.
Stephen Mitchell Translation
Whoever relies on the Dao in governing does not force issues or attempt to defeat others by violence. For every force, there is a counterforce. Violence, even when well-intentioned, always rebounds.
The sage does what needs to be done, and then stops. He understands that the universe is forever beyond control, and to try to dominate events is to move against the current of the Dao. Because he accepts himself, he does not seek approval. Because he is content, the world accepts him.
This teaching from Tao Te Ching Chapter 30 is powerful in its simplicity. It reminds us that forcing outcomes—whether in politics, relationships, or personal growth—creates resistance. The universe has its own flow, and the Dao is always moving. To resist it is to exhaust ourselves.
The Art of Non-Forcing
One line stands out: “The universe is forever out of control, and trying to dominate events goes against the current of the Dao.”
This points us toward wu wei—action through non-action. Wu wei is not passivity. It does not mean lying on a raft and letting the current smash us into the rocks. Instead, it is about relaxed engagement. We remain aware and responsive, but without clutching or forcing. A slight movement of the oar, a gentle steering, is often all that’s required.
Energy and Balance
The same applies in relationships. Sometimes we want to save or correct others, but if they resist, continuing to force our help only creates resentment. As Daoist teachers remind us: once you’ve spoken your truth, let go. Life may need to teach that person in its own way—sometimes through challenges or even the “cosmic frying pan” moments that wake us up.
True Leadership
The chapter also speaks about leadership rooted in humility and trust. The sage does not seek recognition, nor does he coerce others. Instead, by living authentically and aligning with the Dao, he allows others to recognize his wisdom naturally. This is leadership by example, not domination.
Living the Teaching
To live this teaching is to embrace trust:
Trust in the Dao’s unfolding.
Trust in others to walk their own paths.
Trust in ourselves to act when action is needed, and to release when it is not.
In a world that prizes control and domination, Chapter 30 offers a radical truth: true strength comes not from force, but from harmony with the currents of life.